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Your toddler: 23 months old


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By now, you’re probably super-familiar with the toddler “no” phase. Next up is the toddler “why” phase. “Why dat milk white?” “Why sun gone?” “Why dirt dirty?” “Why bath?” All this will likely push your buttons at some point (you feel like such a parent when you finally resort to “Because it just is, that’s why!”). A lot of it is curiosity about the big wide world—after all, they’re new here. More importantly, this is actually your toddler’s way of having a conversation with you, using their own limited communication skills and vocab. You say something, they ask “Why?” you answer and they ask “Why?” again and again and again. Asking why is how they interact with you, see how you react and find out more about something they think is interesting. Put it this way and answering all those questions gets a little easier to handle. Plus, it’s totally fine to say “Good question. I don’t know. Let’s look it up at home.” Building their brains and building your relationship together is a win-win.

23-months-old development & milestones

Mine, mine, mine!

5 tips for teaching your toddler how to share
One day soon, if it hasn’t happened already, your sweet toddler is probably going to get all grabby and possessive about a toy car, an empty tissue box, a hunk of Play-Doh or even you. That’s a normal, healthy developmental phase. From your toddler’s POV, if it’s in their hands, it’s theirs. If someone takes it away (or a visiting baby is on your lap and taking you away), it can feel like the end of the world to them. It’s not a forever phase because over the next year or so, until age three or four, they’ll be able to make the cognitive leap that stuff can be owned and shared. Don’t worry that they’re going to become selfish little monsters, and try not to get upset or embarrassed if they are freaking out. Instead, talk about taking turns and how long a turn lasts. Practise passing an object back and forth and saying “Your turn” and “My turn.” It can’t hurt to put those super-special items, like the purple bucket, away before a playdate either. And if they’re worried about losing your lap, offer plenty of reassurance (and make some room).

Minding manners

When it comes to language skills, your toddler will start using more words to interact with others now. That means they’re more likely to use your name (“Mama, let’s run” or “Daddy, want snack”), especially if you’ve made a point of starting sentences with their name. They’re also learning that words can create actions, like “Go away” or “Get water,” which means it’s also a good time to figure out manners. Is not quite two too early to learn? No way! Saying hello, please and thank you and staying at the table for a whole seven minutes to eat a family meal are all reasonable things to work on at this age. What isn’t so reasonable to expect is eating politely with a fork and spoon, talking to people they don’t know and saying thank you for a “meh” gift. Look for teachable moments, like pointing out how good they feel when someone notices their kindness, and be aware that your mini-me is watching, so step up your manners game, too.

Snack time

There are probably days where it feels like your toddler is a snacking machine. That’s OK because toddlers have both small tummies and short attention spans, so they can get distracted easily and not eat enough at meals. This, in turn, can add up to a cranky, hungry kid, even if they don’t know they’re hungry. Keep healthy snacks on hand so you can help them fuel up and head off a meltdown (sometimes it’s worth just putting food in front of them rather than asking if they want a snack and getting an irrational and teary “No!”).

Kiwi Yogurt Cups

Winning the car seat battle

Trying to safely strap in a toddler who does not want to be in a car seat is not a fun way to start your drive. Toddlers love motion and don’t appreciate sitting still or being confined, so it’s no wonder that they often aren’t down with the whole five-point-restraint seat belt thing. Try talking them through the process and acknowledging how they feel: “OK, I know you don’t like this and you feel mad, but it’s important to be in your car seat to keep you safe. It’s time to go. All done. Let’s have a hug.” Help them feel a bit more in control by allowing them to get into the car by themselves if they can and then handing over a soft toy or fabric book to keep their interest.

Ditching the diapers

dad with kid on the back, running over toilet paper
We tried the 3-day potty training method—and it was intense
It may feel like diapers are just always going to be part of your life, but the routine really is going to come to an end in the next year or so. Your toddler may be completely disinterested in the potty right now, and that’s totally fine, but others may start to show signs of being ready for toilet training. Here’s what to watch for: if your baby has a diaper that stays dry for one to two hours, feels uncomfortable in a wet or dirty diaper, goes over to the potty and sits on it for a few minutes (even if nothing happens), can pull down their pants themselves or grabs their diaper or hides when it’s time for a poop (c’mon, how adorable is that?). Regardless of when they’re ready for big-kid underwear, one thing you can do to help set the stage is to say how good it feels to be clean and dry after a diaper change to help them be a bit more aware.

Your life after baby

Sex and housework

There are plenty of things about parenthood that can kill sexy time: cleaning up after gross messes, being exhausted or feeling “touched out” after a weekend with a toddler who crawls all over you and asks to be picked up a thousand times a day. Still, many parents manage to have a sex life after their kid arrives by, say, sneaking off to the spare room for an interlude if there’s a kid asleep in their bed or making a point of some mini-foreplay at random moments during the day so it’s a little easier to get in the mood when there is a spare 11 minutes.

Another totally hot move? A partner who does their fair share of the household chores. True, it’s not an easy conversation, but understanding what may actually be going on in the relationship and using collaborative language (not “You’re being lazy!”) are tools that can help both of you.

Stuff no one tells you

Getting out the door a little faster

Chances are, heading out of the house in the pre-kid days wasn’t something you even really thought about. Going out with a baby was lots of prep but not a huge deal. But getting out the door with a toddler can be a sweaty, frustrating, incredibly long process. They’re not trying to mess with you, but they just don’t get schedules, the passage of time or the need for mitts or sunscreen. Distracting them, singing or asking them to help get dressed are all ways to make departures less chaotic.

Eating out with a toddler (yes, you can!)

Sure, you should probably skip that totally chic, A-list resto (that’s what date nights are for), but you don’t have to spend the next few years exclusively in restaurants that feature cartoon animals, plastic trays and ball pits either. Eating out with a toddler is doable if you think strategically: Call ahead to see if the timing and setting are kid-appropriate, bring some backup food, and keep an eye out for people-watching opportunities (sit by a window or near an open kitchen).

Just for fun

Party time

Why, hello there, two! There are lots of easy ways to make a second b-day bash a little bit special: Serve colourful toddler-friendly mini-snacks in ice cube trays or make some way-cool sensory bags with a bit of coloured hair gel and glitter.

Let them nibble

Simple food hacks

Every parent needs some hacks to streamline everyday meals. Add pasta sauce straight out of the container to hot noodles for a just-the-right-heat-for-toddlers dish, or put some frozen peas or corn into hot soup to cool it down. For an on-the-go snack, stick a short, wide straw through the foil top of an applesauce cup.

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